basically, the gf will say "oh I should be online/able to talk to you/see you/whatever tonight/tomorrow night/friday/whatever" and then.. on whatever night she said she'd be able to hangout/talk or whatever, she'll be AWOL for 9 hours then randomly sign onto MSN and be like "oh sorry, had to go shopping for some things I needed"(this happened today.. 9 hours of shopping for things she needed). I don't understand what's so hard about saying 'oh, change of plans.. sorry. i'm gonna go shopping instead.' or hangout with friends, or whatever. even though that'd still kind of upset me(she always puts everything else first, me second.. whereas i put her first, everything else second).. but, it'd be better than the current nothing i'm getting. but.. am i asking too much? and am i putting up with too much?