I guess you could say that I'm young ... 26. Starting to feel older and older everyday when I see friends getting married and having kids. And here I am, a 26 yr old who's never been in a serious relationship. How sad is that? I have no problems dating women, but when it comes to progressing that into a relationship, that's when I fumble. I've always just wanted to get my life in order (job, money, ect) before I pursued relationships. Everything is all set now, but now I'm screwed, b/c I'm older and just now trying to figure out how to play the game. That's what happened with this past woman. I've give a brief synopsis of it, if you're willing to bare with me. She was older (30), very hot, and came on strong. I met her while working out. She basically made all the first moves. She liked my car and asked to go for a ride in it some time. We exchanged numbers. Well, later that night, she called me, and told me that she was free that weekend, so we agreed to go out. We had a good time. The next date, she offered to cook dinner at my place (I know, huge sign/hint, but I'm naive and didn't try anything). We didn't kiss until our third date. Right off the bat, we were talking, at least, everyday. Talked everyday, and saw each other 2-3 times a week. She always drove the 45 min to my place. She never wanted me to go over to her place. Her reason was that her crazed ex was still stalking (calling, driving by, having friends check up on her) her, and she didn't want to put me in a bad situation. I though this was a bit weird. This continued for about 2 months, and everything was great. She always answered my calls, or would call back right away. She told me that she thought about me a lot, bragged to her friends about me, and was always curious if I was telling my family and friends about her. Everything seemed like it was moving toward being serious. Then the downfall .... After one of our dates (I specifically remember asking her to stay over, but she said she had to go home to see if "he" had called. I didn't think anything of this at the time), I didn't hear from her for 2 days. I left messages, but she didn't call back. On the third day, I called her, she was on the other line with her ex. She told me everything was fine, it had nothing to do with me, and that she would call me later. Well, I didn't listen and left a negative message on her voice mail a few hours later. I realize this is where I messed up. I should have been more secure with myself and had some trust in her. But, thoughts of them working things out were racing through my mind. She called me the next day saying how she was hurt ... seeing how she had been very open and honest about everything, yet I still thought that she may be hiding things from me. This is when she told me she didn't want anything serious with anyone for a long time! How she wanted to cut off everyone from her life, even the good people (referring to me). Did I mention that during this, she was dealing with a new job. The job is one hr drive for her and very weird hours all the time, so she was exhausted and stressed from this too. And me adding even more unnecessary stress to her life wasn't helping. We went out one more time after this, but it wasn't the same anymore. We went to a hibachi place. She was very flirty with one of the cooks and the manager. I got a bit jealous, and it got to the point where she had written down her phone number and was going to give it away to one of the waiters. After dinner at the restaurant, she asked me to wait outside for 10 minutes, while she had a conversation with the manager. I thought this was disrespectful toward me (maybe I'm wrong about this). But if I'm on a date, I'm not going to ask a girl to wait outside while I chat up someone. When I talked to her the next night, she told me I had nothing to worry about (manager, cook), because they weren't interested. I thought this was a weird use of words. She never said that she wasn't interested, just that they weren't. I also found out that she called the hibachi cook at the restaurant to compliment him on his cooking. No sane person does this unless they are trying to start something, am I right??? I told her how messed up it was to make me wait, and she wasn't really wanting to hear it and hung up on me. I knew it was done with at this point. But, I just couldn't leave it alone. Kept trying to call her. No pick ups, and no returned calls on her part for a couple weeks. When she did pick up, she'd tell me to call later, only she wouldn't pick up the second time. I suppose some of the messages I left didn't help the situation. I called her again last week, and we spoke for about 15 minutes before my reception got disconnected. I told her if she didn't want me to call, all she had to do was to say it, and it would be over with ... just don't leave me hanging in the dark. She replied that if that was the case, she would tell me. She told me she hasn't really been talking with anyone, so I'm not the only one not getting call backs (I still think she is with her ex or met someone else). She told me that for a while there, she was ready to start something serious with me, but she got turned off when I started being pessimisstic, negative, and jealous (these are things I know I need to deal with). Now, she isn't even sure if she ever wants anything serious with anyone. She just doesn't have a lot of time with her work (drive and hours are starting to wear her down) and still dealing with ex issues (he was emotionally abusive and just not a very good guy). She is fine with us being friends and talking and perhaps, hanging out when she has some time, which I think may be never. Since the reception was bad, she told me to call her later, which I said I would, but I haven't. Sorry to put you through all this. I just needed someone else to hear it. This is pretty much the story of my life with women. I always find a way to ruin a good thing. I haven't spoken with her since last week. I'm trying to figure out if I can handle being her friend for right now. A small part of me wants to have her in my life, but I'm not really sure what good this would do for either of us. A large part of me thinks that the best thing to do would be to just never call anymore. At this point, it can never go back to the way it was, and I don't even know how to get it back to that point, if it were possible. So, I'm just causing her stress, and making things difficult for myself. It's just that I was starting to really care for her. I'll give it a few weeks to think about it. I know I'm making way too big a deal out of this. Cliffs: Meet great girl. Start to care for her. Messed it up. Now trying to figure what my options.