SRS Almost three years ago i posted a thread here...

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  1. Werdness to the Turdness

    Werdness to the Turdness RIP Nigger Jim OT Supporter

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    ....I had just found out my mother-in-law had leukemia. She fought it and won a temporary battle. 10 months ago she found out that it came back and she just found out last night that she has a month to live. She went through 3 years of chemo (off and on), and probably a total of 6 months in the hospital. She had a stem cell transplant a few months ago that failed. If you talked to her on the phone you would never know she was even sick.

    She lives in Seattle and we live in Austin so now we probably have to do the toughest thing in both of our lives and go there and watch her die. It makes me sick to my stomach because my wife is only 27 and she has no other family. No siblings, no father and her mother is only 59.

    I don't know whether to cry or start breaking shit. I have to get it out of my system now so i can be strong for her though.

    wtf. i hate life sometimes. I just needed to vent. No replies are necessary. :wtc:
     
  2. Mulsanne

    Mulsanne The Man = Funk Fusion Chaos

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    that sounds terrible. But this may provide some hope.

    My grandmother, around a year ago, found out that the cancer she had in her eye had metastisized to her stomach and liver...so it was pretty bad.

    They gave her 3-6 months, and here were are 12 months down the road and shes the same old Nan i've always loved.

    So yes, all things must pass, but it might not be as bad as you think :hs:

    :hug: hang in there man.
     
  3. Yuppy

    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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    bummer man. Be strong for you wife, thats the best thing you can do.

    If you really want to break something though im sure you can find some cheap stemware @ walmart

    :hug:
     
  4. Werdness to the Turdness

    Werdness to the Turdness RIP Nigger Jim OT Supporter

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    :cool:

    I'm pretty sure this is it though. She's discharged from the cancer center and they gave her some pills to hold her off until after christmas. She didn't want to die during the holidays and ruin it for my wife
     
  5. Werdness to the Turdness

    Werdness to the Turdness RIP Nigger Jim OT Supporter

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    i already dusted off my maul and have some wood waiting for me in my backyard. Cracking wood = stress relief
     
  6. Mulsanne

    Mulsanne The Man = Funk Fusion Chaos

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    :werd: just, you know, get limber before you put your back into it.

    Last thing you need is to throw your back out :embd:
     
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    deusexaethera OT Supporter

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    She still has you. Be strong for her, she's gonna need it.
     
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    projectalpha 二號 Stunna

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  10. Werdness to the Turdness

    Werdness to the Turdness RIP Nigger Jim OT Supporter

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    thanks everybody :wavey: Today's her final appointment to determine what has to be done to make her last days as comfortable as possible.
     
  11. deusexaethera

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    If she can still carry herself, now is the time to do whatever she always wished she'd done, because she won't get another chance.
     
  12. Asherman

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    Twenty years ago, my Uncle turned from one of the friendliest most easy-going people you'd ever want to meet into a snarling grouch. The doctors said he had developed a rare type of headache more painful than a migraine. As a youth I had migraine headaches, and can't really imagine anything worse. They catscanned and tested the man any number of times without finding anything physical. Finally, the doctors diagnosed an aggressive and inoperable brain tumor.

    They gave him something like four months to live, and he wanted to spend that time at home. Finally the drugs seemed to reduce the pain, but he was constantly in a daze. On his "good days", he was a pleasure to be around, but on "bad days" everyone suffered. Everyone was exhausted and emotionally strung out over the process. During the last month, Tom moved into a hospice.

    The hospice was a revelation to us all, including my Uncle Tom. The staff was so much more experienced with the process of dying, that much of the pressure came off of our family and allowed us all to concentrate just on Uncle Tom. His "good days" seemed to increase and I don't recall a single "bad day". His room was pleasant, but really better equipped to handle the medical care needs of a terminal patient than the family home. He had pretty much constant attention, and a great deal of control over his environment (music, films, reading, etc.) Both my Uncle and our family were given sensitive counseling. The staff helped guided us through the final arrangements, and made certain that nothing was overlooked. They took care of paperwork, making telephone calls, and etc. The hospice made Uncle Tom's death easier for us all than any of the many other family deaths we had previously had to deal with.

    Now, as my wife and I begin more seriously planning for our own departure, the idea of spending the final days in a hospice is at the top of our list. Every case is individual, but keep a hospice in mind for the last week or so. Dying can be easy and dignified without professional help, but having expert assistance sure helped our family.
     
  13. Werdness to the Turdness

    Werdness to the Turdness RIP Nigger Jim OT Supporter

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    she just wants to go back to her house and be with her daughter.
     
  14. Werdness to the Turdness

    Werdness to the Turdness RIP Nigger Jim OT Supporter

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    :wtc:

    She's alrady contacted the hospice and the plans are made. She doesn't want to go there, but right now she still feels "well". She knows that will change though so the plans are in place
     
  15. TheManLouisianaFace

    TheManLouisianaFace and decide!

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    damn brotato, stay strong and support her


    take out your rage on comcast and middle management :rofl:
     
  16. Werdness to the Turdness

    Werdness to the Turdness RIP Nigger Jim OT Supporter

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    :rofl: werd. that tree stump took a fucking beating last night. probably leaving next week for a 2300 mile drive to seattle. Can't wait :wtc:
     
  17. Redneck Shinobi

    Redneck Shinobi Well Jules, the funny thing about my back is that

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    Wow thats a shitty deal man. Its going to be a lot harder than it seems now I know that much. I watched my grandma die for 3 months. I stopped visiting when I knew she was getting, worse I couldn't bear to watch her in pain.

    I'm glad you are going with your wife to be with them in their time of need. Good luck isn't the place here, I'm sad for you guys :/
     
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    So sorry to hear, her mother is so young still :wtc: It is wonderful that you are there for your wife when she needs you for this. I had a very hard time with my grandfather's death in September (we were very close), and it would have been SO much harder if my fiance wasn't there holding me when I needed him.
     
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    Sorry for your mother in law. I'm not sure if it was mentioned but is it possible for her to move down with you guys until she passes?
     
  20. civicmon

    civicmon got all my game from the streets of california.

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    Damn brother that's rough.

    stay strong bro. Tell the wifey i wish her the best as well.
     
  21. Werdness to the Turdness

    Werdness to the Turdness RIP Nigger Jim OT Supporter

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    thanks man :cool:

    She leaves on wednesday, last test results were worse than they thought. I can't go until sunday at the earliest. American Airlines gave her a compassion discount. $500 roundtrip instead of $825
     
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    Damn dude, very sorry to hear.

    Just do everything in your power to be there for the wifey :hs:



    BTW I find that driving golf balls is an amazing form of stress/anger release :o
     
  23. Werdness to the Turdness

    Werdness to the Turdness RIP Nigger Jim OT Supporter

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    thanks :(

    i can't find my woods :( pitching a ball 100 yards isn't as much fun
     
  24. NiggaPHX420

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    lots of driving ranges have clubs for rent :Eek5:
     
  25. Werdness to the Turdness

    Werdness to the Turdness RIP Nigger Jim OT Supporter

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    i would rather rent a gun :fawk:
     

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