While using a lube a few months back we found that I was allergic to phthalates and that it doesn't make for enjoyable sex. We changed over to a hemp based one and have had no problems since. Just got a new toy and by the way my body reacts to it, it must have phthalates in it it sucks because I like the softer toys and they are the ones that are more likely to have phthalates in them. I am guessing if a condom is used then there shouldn't be any reaction? Right? Anyone else have this problem and have a good place or brand of toys to use which are phthalates free?