SRS All things aside. I need serious advice

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  1. Filmboy44

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    This is so frustrating and I'm amazed that I controled myself.

    I will keep this as sysinct as possible.

    I met this girl that I'm absoultely "ga-ga" over. But thats not it. She's so into her family and she has this amazing bond with her 2 other sisters that is just amazing and I love it.

    I met this girl at a restaurant that her younger sister(26 y/o) boyfriend owns. She is a partime waitress at night and a private investigator by day. So I met her at this guys "fancy" restaurant. Anyways, I go on a date last sunday with this girl and find out that her sister and this restaurant owner live right next door to my brother and his wife :big grin:

    well ok, flash forward to tonight. I go to the restaurant tonight to see this girl. Her sister is there an the owner (the boyfriend) so after the girl was off we had some drinks and started having a good time. Now keep in mind that all this time (3 weeks) that I have been talking with this new girl, her sisters BF is sorta stand offish...like he isn't too fond of me :hsughno: now I'm not sure why, but whatever...not everyone likes everyone.

    Ok, so tonight...I grab this girls sister that lives next to my brother and I say "hey you live next to my brother" She said "thats your brother?" I said "yea:big grin:" and she said "oh shit...Tim!!! This guy is brothers with the asshole that lives next door" so the guy "Tim" is the restaurant owner...and he's standing at the end of the bar. I go over and say "asshole?" and he said "yea man, your brother is a retard" I said "whoa, excuse me? what the fuck did he do?" he said "he's an asshole because he was upset about a piece of his lawn and he's putting shit up that isn't even his property" I said "like what" He said "I don't want to get into it, he's just lucky I haven't cracked his skull yet" so I bite my lip and walked away...

    NO ONE FUCKING TALKS ABOUT MY FAMILY LIKE THAT!!! THIS ASSHOLE JUST BECAME MY FIRST ENEMY!!

    Now the catch is, I like this girl I'm seeing. I don't want this little mix up between me and this guy to get between us. I spoke to her and she said not to worry about "Tim" hating me and all that. I don't know what she said to him but they were talking and he didn't look happy. When asked what they said she didn't answer. Said not to worry about it.

    So here I am in this guy restaurant ready to split his head open for talking that way about my brother. But I held back. He obvioulsy has no respect for me talking to me like that.

    I talked to a friend of mine that apparently graduated with this dickhead and said that everytime he see's him he wants to rip his head off...he hates him. I guess this guy embezzled 80,000.00 from his own fuckin' grandmother!!!!! He's an asshole and always has been.

    So here's my problem. I really am upset with this guy. Even if I try and reason with him he's just going to be a dick. So I dont' want to screw things up with this girl I'm talking to over a dispute my brother has with this asshole, and now he's brought me into it by talking that way about him.

    So what do I do? I am thinking about taking this girl and explaining to her that I don't like this guy and don't want it to ruin anything we have because he's an immature asshole that can't talk anything out. However, I don't want her sister to hate me, thats were I loose points. If her sister hates me because she's obviously got to stick up for her BF then that makes me look bad....don't know how but it does.

    How can I approach this situation with out damaging ANY relationships. WIth this girl, her sister, or even my brother. This guy can kiss my asshole as far as I'm concerned!!

    Any suggestions? Thanks guys
     
  2. PuppyCat

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    Stay out of it...let it go. Ignore it. If you like this girl, just let it go...after all, you are not going out with the brother...there usually is some sort of drama and bad feelings somewhere in families...the quarrel is bewteen your g/f's brother and your brother, and it is none of your concern.

    What is of your concern, is the realtionship you may or may not have with this girl. Should the issue come up between you and this girl, simply say "It is not my headache, it is between them and should have no bearing on us."

    If said girl "sides" with her brother, then I suggest you move on, as that action in itself speaks to me of who and what is of major import in her life. You do not need the hassle of trying to build a relationship and keep your temper under control and deal with family issues.

    Do not misconstrue my words, family IS important, but as I have learned, it is just best to stay out of things.

    Do not tell your brother what this person has said, do not fuel the fire, just stay out of it. Rise above it.

    There is a certain amount of integrity in remaining impartial. IMO.
    :)
     
  3. Toasty

    Toasty Naked people have little or no influence on societ

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    Good advice ^^
     
  4. Filmboy44

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    :) thanks, I will do that. Also, for the record, its this girls sisters boyfriend, not her brother
     
  5. PuppyCat

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    Sorry.

    In any event it is family and just steer clear of it.

    That's what I do and it saves aggravation.
     
  6. johan

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    It's the girl's sister's boyfriend. Not family. Don't worry.
    Don't interact with that low retard. You don't HAVE to see them, do you?

    And if he truly is as classless as you say, then your girl no doubt sees it too.
    But anyways, it's not time to talk of those things.

    If you care about this girl, just continue on your relationship as normal, and don't go to that restaurant. If pressured, just say you don't like the food there. I wouldn't give money to an obvious asshole like that. Fuck him.

    If things get more serious with this girl, you can bring up this jerk, but not until that time (which is much later on).

    Good luck dude.
     

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