SRS Age differences

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  1. Guz200sx

    Guz200sx The man who does more than he is paid for will soo

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    I was reading a thread in the offtopic section of OT about age differences and it seemed like a lot of people were critical about 20-23 yr old girls. Basically saying they don't know what they want, most are just party girls, and eventually you are setting yourself up for heartbreak, etc.

    And I started to think does it really make that much of a difference what the age is. Its just a number in some instances. If you are dating a 21yr old and you are 28 (about to turn 29yrs old), is that 8yr difference really a factor or does it depend on the person?

    The 21yr old that I know is very mature for her age. She almost doesn't seem 21. I don't seem 28 either though. So really I don't think age is a factor unless you let it be a factor.

    I also count experiences in the life. I went through things that made me wake up and realize what I was doing. I stopped doing those things and matured from it. Same goes for the girl I know...she went through a lot as a child and as a young adult and had to grow up quickly because of it.
     
  2. Darketernal

    Darketernal Watch: Aria The Origination =)

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    Really, if i where you i would go for it.
     
  3. Guz200sx

    Guz200sx The man who does more than he is paid for will soo

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    Oh, we are dating exclusively. I have strong feelings for her too. Her age doesn't matter to me and she is very mature anyway.
     
  4. Xin

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    No reason to not give it a shot, but you might come to find someday when her immaturity/age shows through. but good luck.
     
  5. Cerridwen

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    Being a 23 year old woman, some of us are NOT partygoers. Some of us know what we want out of life and are working towards those goals.

    You can't take a lot of what OT says (especially in the main forum) to heart. IMO OT is (again in the main forum) mostly a bunch of very young inexperienced teenage boys.
     
  6. lisanxd

    lisanxd No Doubt Obsessed

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    I'm 22 and not a partygirl. I am one of the most loyal girls you'll ever meet, in fact maybe too loyal for my own good. That is just a horrible stereotype.
     
  7. BlazinBlazer Guy

    BlazinBlazer Guy Witness to The De-Evolution of Mankind.

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    :werd: I work with many 20-23 y/o women who aren't partiers; in fact for many of us (by "us" I mean the group of people I work with and myself) the only parties we go to are the work parties we have. That's not to say we haven't gotten a little crazy at times there, though :noes:
     
  8. MissKitty

    MissKitty If squats were easy they'd be called 'Your Mum' OT Supporter

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    I started looking for a life time mate from a very young age. I didn't just date to have fun. Each man I was with I was with to find out if they were my life partner and if it wasn't there then I stopped it early. I didn't get into a relationship just to be in a relationship.

    Age doesn't matter, maturity does and anyone who says maturity comes with age is kidding themselves
     
  9. Azazel28

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    Age is relative, too much of society places a lot of pressure on a man to date a younger women or a women to date an older man....Age is what you make of it, unless by god it is a horrific difference in terms of learning experience (IE a 13 year old girl is out of a 25 year olds league, not just in a moral perspective or a legal one...purely by experiences and understanding, by no means is that young girl even hit her mental prime yet and therefore does not have an understanding of real world events).

    If there is something there, there is no problem testing the waters what harm is going to come of it? If anything both of you will come out of it with a new perspective on relationships whether it works out for the best or for the worst.
     
  10. McFly

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    How oddly ironic. I was involved with a 21 year old too when I was 28 last year. I thought she was super mature and knew what she wanted out of life. She had a better job than me, her own place and a ton of potential. She was one of those that was forced to "grow up early" due to some family issues when she was young.

    it is from my experience that EVERY person, male or female mature and change a tremendous amount throughout their 20s. They can say they know exactly what they want and know exactly where they want to be in life but it will change. You are always taking a risk when getting invloved in a relationship in your early to mid 20s. Some people might get lucky, but just go out and live those years to the fullest, don't get bogged down in any kind of serious relationship.
     
  11. PuppyCat

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    What do you know in your 20s? Not much, although one thinks they do. I don't think anybody in their 20s dating someone in their 20s is a bad thing...it's not like you are robbing the cradle...if you were 50 and were going out with someone in their 20s...hmm...it possibly could raise a few eyebrows.
    A person should get married in their 30s, after all the partying, soul seeking, sowing wiled oats, experiencing some life, getting their education, etc, etc. This of course is my personal opinion.
     
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    I don't seen age as a factor in a relationship.. I know of some people that are extremely happy with their lives.. For example, my sister is married to a guy that is 5 years older than her.. and they are completely in love.. It all depends on chemistry, and how you both are for your age.. My sister's husband is very mature, but yet has a kid side to him too.. It all depends on chemistry, clicking, and how people act..

    As far as the 20 year olds being partiers.. I don't agree with that.. I am 20 and I don't drink, don't smoke, don't mess around, don't party- and if I do it's a non-alcoholic party, and I have goals and now where I want to go in life!
     
  13. Toasty

    Toasty Naked people have little or no influence on societ

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    Depends on the individual like anything else. I once tried dating a girl about 6 years younger then me...but it didn't work out. She was into things I, myself, had gotten bored of 6 years prior.
     
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    it's my experience that every person, regardless of age, goes through several transitional periods in thier life. just because they are out of their 20s, doesnt mean they are set in their life plans, or have everything figured out, or wont be making some change down the road.

    people dont stop growing when they hit 25. your life partner should be someone who can grow with you, or who is willing to compromise when necessary. your 20s might be a good example of how well the two of you handle change together, but it's no guarrentee.

    i dont think peoples personalities really change. i just think you start to see more of certain traits as they become bolder...and certainly people in thier 20s make riskier choices, and that will put a strain on any relationship.


    edit: ive been in several relationships with 8-10 year age diferences. noon of them disolved due to age differences...it was just general compatibilty issues. maybe people front a different personality at the start of a relationship, and you cant keep that up forever...eventually their true self shows through.
     
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  15. The Secretary

    The Secretary My domestic skills will rock your socks off!

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    Im 20 about to be 21 in a few months. Im not a partygoer, I am in school with my head in the books, I work which takes the rest of my time. Age is relative, especially the older you get. Like now dating someone 25 would be something I would consider 3 years ago I wouldnt have considered dating someone over 20. You can date someone older than yourself and they act younger than you, and then you can date someone younger and act older. Alot depends on upbringing I believe, if much is required, much is recieved.
     
  16. Megab

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    as did i. i am 17, my boyfriend is 20, and we've been together for almost 4 years, everyone looks down on us because of age if they dont know us. I agree with your post 100%. :)
     
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    My fiance and I are 5 1/2 years apart, and I think it has a lot to do with the fact that we are in the same place mentally, not numerically. I am 21, and he is 26, to be 27 in july. We have been together for about 3 years, and engaged and living together for over a year and a half, and of corse we have descrepencies about things, but they are much easier to work out when you are in the same place and ultimately want the same things. Age is just a number, unless you MAKE it more than that
     
  18. Guz200sx

    Guz200sx The man who does more than he is paid for will soo

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    Same here. She is mature for her age and seems to know what she wants (or may want). She has some goals in life and in the future may very well have a better job than me and prolly even her own place. She also has a ton of potential. I hope I can go along with her for her journey.

    I know things change and people change too but hopefully it won't change too much.

     

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