SRS after party guilt

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  1. flowers

    flowers New Member

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    i went to this party this saturday where i got horribly drunk. i did a few things which i should not have done. i am feelin like a total whore. i grinded with ramdom guys..got badly felt up by ppl i dont no( m feeling so eww now).made out with my best friends bf and was so very colse from getting gang raped...
    at this moment my best friend is mad at me and i feel so used and dirty.

    ps : i just needed to vent and let it out.
     
  2. Outspoken_Hetero

    Outspoken_Hetero New Member

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    you know what you should feel guilty
    its not about being drunk or the sluttyness
    the lack of self control, incidents like this happen so that people can learn their limitations. if your smart enough to do so you'll be a better person for it.
    so use the shame and never let yourself repeat what happend saturday night.
     
  3. Gregsaidthat

    Gregsaidthat "Individuality is the new conformity"

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    There is always that 1 second that you know what your doing. I don't feel bad for you in any way shape or form!
     
  4. Coottie

    Coottie BOOMER......SOONER OT Supporter

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    Growing up is about making mistakes, learning from them and working to not repeat them. Turn that guilt into motivation to keep from repeating those behaviors.

    However, if you are like me, when you are drinking you will be unable to keep from doing those things you are ashamed of. So I felt guilty because of what I did when I was drunk so I drank to relieve the guilt. Then I did more things I was guilty of and the cycle continued on and on and on.

    It was a horrible downward spiral where I watched my life disentegrating but I seemed totally powerless to prevent it. I needed help but I didn't know were to find it. Then I found AA and discovered I was an alcoholic.

    However, millions of people learn from their mistakes and never repeat those behaviors and they are not alcoholics. Perhaps you are one of those people. If not, please look into AA and alcoholism because there is no reason to live like this when help is available.

    Good Luck and God Bless.
     
  5. kingtoad

    kingtoad OT Supporter

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    When you're drunk you know what you're doing. You can still decipher right and wrong. Next time you go out and drink you should take a more mature approach.

    May this be a lesson for future events.
     
  6. Swak

    Swak Artificially known as ObsoleteAsian

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    I would give you the benefit of the doubt that you did things you didn't want to do and no you have regret. As said from others if you learn something from that one party than you have moved forward one spot in life. If you go to another party and repeat the same actions than well, there is no support or forgiveness in that sense. Everyone is aware of what they do when they are drunk, but for the few reasons people to drink as in to relax or lower your consciousness over your actions. If you do it for the freedom of reacting on your inner actions than its best to discuss that with people on why you do that. Otherwise hopefully that party guilt is a lesson learned.
     
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    You shouldn't regret any experience, but grow as a result of it.
     
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    as many others have said, use this to your benefit for next time. just remember limits and limitations on certain things. not to say that you shouldn't enjoy yourself, just do so in regulation.
     
  9. Falconer

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    Good, now don't do it again.

    Your best friend SHOULD be pissed at you. But, she should be MORE pissed at her bf. In fact, you basically just showed her that her bf is not trustworthy or monogomous, and you did her a favor. Of course, she won't see it that way, but it's better she find out now than after she marries him.

    But it's good that you don't feel good. If you had enjoyed that, you'd be a wh0re :)

    At least you didn't sleep with some random guy.
     
  10. Coottie

    Coottie BOOMER......SOONER OT Supporter

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    One of the first effects of alcohol on the body is to lower inhibitions. This effect gets more pronounced as one gets drunker. So, eventhough one may know what they are doing, they may not be capeable of correctly percieving the impact of such actions.

    Why do you think so many pppl drink and drive?
     
  11. mrchina

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    What do you mean very close to getting gang raped? Rape is a pretty strong word, girl.
     
  12. deviant

    deviant rest your trigger on my finger

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    if i had to guess, "participate in a gang bang" would have more aptly described the situation she was in, but putting it how she did is less shameful. but then i wasn't there so i'm only wagering a guess :dunno:
     
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    This is why I refuse to date partiers/clubbers. Let my gaurd down a bit with the last girl, and she went to a club and gave a guy a lapdance/was grining all over other guys. That behavior does not fly with me, or any of my friends.
     
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    rape is not "participation"
     
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    i never thought i lacked self control until now. this was a waking call for me. i do want to go to another party and see how i react and show complete control but then again m rely embaressed of myself...
    i only drank to loosen myself up but i guess i loosened up to much.
     
  16. mrchina

    mrchina Guest

    Maybe you shouldn't regret your actions and cry wolf.
     
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  17. deviant

    deviant rest your trigger on my finger

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    yes i'm aware of that. i'm stating that at the time, if i had to guess, you were pretty into it and rape wasn't even on the horizon. then you possibly had a moment of clarity and realized that it wasn't what you wanted to be doing so you stopped and pulled yourself out of the situation. now you state that "it was almost rape" because it keeps you from feeling shittier about the whole night.
     
  18. 311-420

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    exactly what i was thinking to myself


    dont feel too bad. you're what makes great websites like youporn.com possible!
     
  19. Ameter

    Ameter Active Member

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    :werd:

    people dont do things they wouldnt ordinarily do when drunk. They just do the things they'd be too nervous to do when sober.
     
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    :nono: there's a huge difference between not being able to see consequences and doing something you didnt want to do

    drink shows intent. it shows what you would do if you werent held back
     
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    right, but we're operating on the assumption that you would be willing at the time, and regret it the next day
     
  22. flowers

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    dont feel too bad. you're what makes great websites like youporn.com possible![/quote]

    OH MY GOD......dont say that
     
  23. Ameter

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    its true :dunno:

    i know plenty of girls who dont do that shit when drunk. I suggest you look at yourself honestly and figure out why it is that you'll do virtually anything for attention
     
  24. Coottie

    Coottie BOOMER......SOONER OT Supporter

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    Naw...not true.

    People are much more likely to experiment with behaviors that are not in line with their characters because their inhibitions are lowered and therefore they aren't thinking clearly about the impact of those actions. I know some people like you that think that your "true self" is revealed when one drinks but I don't really agree with that.

    People are so quick to condem and judge the OP in this thread. It's sad and pathetic. EVERYONE does things they later regret. Some people have to spend more time in this pain then others before they decide to change. However, that doesn't mean they are bad people or somehow flawed....they are simply on a different journey.
     
  25. Ameter

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    of course they later regret it

    it doesn't change the fact that they were willing to do it. Drinking will not make a straight man have sex with another man, no matter how drunk he gets, because its not something he'd want, in any way, shape or form

    what drinking does is lowers one's inhibitions. So someone will do something while drinking that they'd stop themselves from doing while sober

    the key is: they have something they need to stop themselves from doing
     

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