Here's the original post where I was struggling to make the decision, for more background: http://forums.offtopic.com/showthread.php?t=3123109 She was my first girlfriend and we were together almost 2 years. I'm 21 and she's 22. Over time, I gradually started falling out of love with her. Our phone conversations went from 1 1/2 hours down to about 10 minutes (I'd eventually try to keep them as short as possible). I stopped looking forward to her coming to see me on the weekends. We never talked about anything serious, mostly just what we did that day and what we were going to do the next. I broke up with her a few hours ago. She claims she was shocked, that she didn't see this coming at all. I don't know how that could be, she had to notice our relationship deteriorating. We had even stopped saying "I love you" to each other the past few months. She said she thought everything was going great, that she thought of me as her best friend. We never had any deep, soul-bearing conversations though. She was crying a ton, and I cried for the first time in a good while. She said, "If that's how you feel, then that's how you feel" through tears. I was surprised she didn't fight for us to stay together more. It may have been the shock, and she'll try soon. She seemed to accept it rather quickly. Updating my facebook profile was the last of my concerns, but she removed our relationship less than an hour after I broke up with her, maybe she's turned from sadness to anger. I know in time I will probably think that to think this is ridiculous, but I have to say that this has probably been the hardest thing I've ever had to bring myself to do so far in my life. I just feel sad right now. We have some good memories together. And I also feel some fear that I'll later think I made the wrong decision, even though rationally I know this was what I needed to do. There's pain from knowing that she won't be coming over to see me anymore, even though I stopped looking forward to seeing her long ago. Before I broke up with her, I was looking forward to being free, anticipating the day I'd finally have the courage to leave her.. Now, I do feel free, but the sadness taints it.