I'm having the opposite problem of Insomniac (http://forums.offtopic.com/showthread.php?t=1943622) My SO wanted to end the relationship because he's too afraid to get hurt and would rather hurt now than fall too hard later and be hurt even more. He's had some rough relationships in the past and has convinced himself that all relationships end at one point or another so he'd rather end it now, while we are friends, than later when (and if) it gets to the point where we start to hate each other's guts. Our issues are very minor and things that can be worked out. We get along perfectly and I know from his actions that he cares about me just as much as (if not more) I care about him. However, I feel that sometimes he purposely doesn't try to work on it because he wants to push my buttons and make me walk to prove his point that relationships really don't work. I keep telling him that I want to be here and that I want this to work. I feel like because he's been hurt so badly before that our relationship never got the fair chance it should have gotten when it started because he already has all these reserves and beliefs about relationships and how they don't work. We're both good people, only he happens to always get the short end of the stick in life. I know this can work and I know neither of us will purposely do anything to try to hurt the other. I wish I could somehow convince him that this one will be different. My question is, is there any way for me to convince him of that?