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  1. Rellik

    Rellik New Member

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    i met this girl in my freshman year in college. we had a lot in common, came from the same town, i always knew how to make her laugh... i thought we were perfect for each other - but the problem was i never had a lot of social experience in highschool and i came in as the biggest nerd. Still, one day that year I managed to get home with her after clubbing and made a pass - it was awkward, not an intimate atmosphere, she seemed physically distant but i went for it anyway because i figured i had nothing left to lose anymore. Rejection and The Speech - but somehow we still remained friends becuase she's part of my social circle.

    now we're in our junior year, still hang out sometimes but always in groups, never alone (like always)... ive long since given up on her, assumed i was hard friendzoned, especially since she been recently telling me about other guys and asking advice and complaining that she wasn't getting any ( :uh: ).. then at this outdoor party, she was kind of tipsy, we wind up alone and she uses me for make-out practice (seriously :hsughr: )... basically going through what we do when we kiss. She bounced with her roomie after the party though...

    talk about mixed signals! i dont know what to do. part of it is my confidence, the only other guy i know she's been with a while ago was about 5x cooler and more attractive than me. I also don't want to get rejected by a friend - again - I feel like if I ask to hang out w/ just me and her, and/or somehow try to lead it back to my place, she will see it as the proposition that it is and freeze up. It's like its the most extreme form of friend-zone, not even the blue-balling spooning but an actual sexless makeout. Fuck.
     
  2. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Sweetie, she's not that into you. She just knows you like her and when she's lonely she uses you. It's pretty obvious.
     
  3. MCohen

    MCohen #NotMyPresident #AmericaIsAlreadyGreat #GoSolar OT Supporter

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    Give it up, bro.
     
  4. maybeitsyou

    maybeitsyou New Member

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    move on, find a new girl, gain new confidence. hell, start asking her how to hit on girls or advice about girls.
     
  5. Dargone

    Dargone Noob

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    What she said
     
  6. spydur86

    spydur86 New Member

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    There's your problem. Don't think in terms like that, man. There is no "she only dates guys who are cooler than me," work on your confidence, step up your game, start flirting with other girls and start learning how to not be socially awkward. If you really have to be with this girl then give her up for now and go out and get some experience.

    You said she's in your social circle so when you're hanging out with your group of friends just stop giving her the time of day. Don't be an asshole to her just don't be overtly friendly with her. Let her see you flirting with other girls and let her know that you're not sitting at home every night pining over her. That kind of thing creeps girls out unless they're into you (in which case it becomes cute all the sudden...). At any rate your biggest detriment right now is your confidence. You're putting too much emphasis on this, just learn how to enjoy yourself and let her see that you know how to do just that. Good luck man, now get out there and have some fun.
     
  7. Rellik

    Rellik New Member

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    so uh, any chance she might use me for sex? :x: or is that too big of a step from kissing...
     
  8. illmaceyougood

    illmaceyougood New Member

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    Next time ask her if she needs BJ practice...
     
  9. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    If you finally made a move....possibly.
     
  10. Abomb

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    her interest is definetly not sky high
     
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    just_another_on New Member

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    Dude, she isn't into you like that.

    You were around while she was drunk one night, thats really the extent of it
     
  12. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    stop clinging desperately to women

    its fucking pathetic
     
  13. antihero

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    I'm going to go ahead and say everyone else in this thread is dead wrong.

    If shes using you for make out practice, this is your game to win or lose.
     
  14. just_another_on

    just_another_on New Member

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    Once...

    While Drunk...

    After two years of being rejected...
     
  15. Abomb

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    .
     
  16. MCohen

    MCohen #NotMyPresident #AmericaIsAlreadyGreat #GoSolar OT Supporter

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    Ummm.....no.
     
  17. THoC

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    make out practice when drunk. after two years of rejection?

    the best you'll get out of this girl is suggestions on how to hit on other chicks. stay her friend if you like but dont make it awkward by hitting on her again.
     
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  19. Nomad

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    :hugot:

    don't worry

    1) she's doesn't seem that good of a friend if she's messing with your mind
    2) she's probably not really worth it and won't make you happy
    3) i'm close to the same age as you, and believe me man, there's other fish in the sea.
    4) listen to Vag, they're pretty damn smart/right on a lot of this stuff
     

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