SRS Advice

Discussion in 'On Topic' started by SuicidalBunny00, Jul 12, 2005.

  1. I know you guys are faced with a whole bunch of emo bullshit that these random people (that you don't even know most likely) bring up, and it must be really annoying. But you seem to give good advice.

    My boyfriend Cody and I are almost the perfect couple, but I just had a conversation with him about my/his drug use. I'm kind of confused about the situation.

    He hated drugs when I met him, and still does today. However, he's been doing shrooms, smoking, and speed with two friends of his. I asked him why and he said because he wanted to "come down to my level" Because he knew I went to parties and Ecstasy was my drug of choice (besides weed).

    He does things to drop to my level, but don't you think that defys the reason to do any kind of drug? What's the point?

    He also refers to my drug usage as "a thorn in his side from the beginning". But I don't know how to respond. Should I quit altogether? Should he put up with it and "sink to my level"? Should I come up to his?

    I need your feedback, plz
     
  2. ItchyDog

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    Seems like he tries to shift the blame. In honesty he does it cuz he wants to and not becasue he wants to lower himself to your level.
     
  3. Toasty

    Toasty Naked people have little or no influence on societ

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    You should both stop using...then it becomes a non-issue doesn't it?

    I'm not being facetious. I really think you should both stop.
     
  4. johan

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    He only does drugs in order to "come down to your level"? Nice. Nice piece of bogus rationalizing. Jebus if you're going to come up with lies...at least put some effort into and make it a good one.

    What makes you guys the perfect couple? Would this compatibility still be there if you guys didn't do drugs? How important are drugs in your life?
     
  5. What make sus the perfect couple? Nothing has every gone wrong, and it's kind of weird to experience a fault.

    I have no problem stopping my usage, I haven't done anything for at least 5 months now. But I think he thought I had the intention that I was going to again.
     
  6. johan

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    Well, it's hard to say from just those two posts, but my gut feel is that his responses are a cover. He's telling you that his drug issue...is only because of YOUR drug issue.

    So call him on it. Tell him you are stopping it once and for all. And actually do so.
    Stop using. Throw out your bongs, your pipes, and spoons, lighters...ANYTHING that was remotely associated with using. Make sure he's present when you do this. Throw all that shit out.

    Invite him to do the same. He may disbelieve you for now, but that's ok.
    After a month, remind him you've been totally clean. See what he does then.

    You'll know instantly.

    My guess...he'll probably continue using for a while. Then...it'll be time to see just what your relationship is made of. And...you'll see what HE'S made of too.
     
  7. Darketernal

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    Feedback = dump him.

    The simple thing is that he has no future, he honestly has no future to look forward too. You don't want to be with a drug addict ,no matter how much exuses they make, and no matter how much great promises they make. They'll end up like this ,http://urology.com.ua/spaw/imglib/lib3/drug_addict.jpg ,stealing away everything that isn't nailed down to the floor. It's like a metal can that they drum on, its a lot of noise but with no content. When he is on drugs, he'll expect you to make the food, and nuturing him like asif he was a baby. Because how independant did you think a drug addict was.

    Honestly say no to him, get yourself a guy who you can have a financially stable future with. Not some unemployed all non void pretty boy floid, black hole future drug corrupted hell on earth ,hallucinetic living nightmare full of lies, junkie going to be guy.

    And WHAT is up with your suicidal feelings? Might as well make another thread about it we'll listen :hug:
     
  8. AntiSocialism

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    The blame game is one of my favorite things! You know... I was once told I got cheated on because I... *gasp* put too much pressure on him.

    Don't let his problems be blamed on you. Agreed. Throw out the drugs. Then tell him to stop being a pansy and quit what he's doing. If you're a perfect couple, you'll be able to be a perfect couple without the drug use.
     

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