Ths new friend happens to be my boss to and is female so it complicates things a little bit. Six months in going on seven we've become pretty good friends I guess she's been great to work for. Shes overly helpful towards me personally and financially. I'm in a rut financially right now but nothing I have been able to get out of. Some examples..here lately I am in a financial pickle I got stuck with a judgment that exceeds what I make per month so I have to take care of this in two weeks time. Not sure how but I'll manage when I get to court. Sometimes family issues crop up that I need to get away from everyone, or friends that do bug me I need isolation is what I require to get it off my mind...she will let me stay at her house if I need to, for free doesn't ask for any rent.. she doesn't live there but maybe twice a week she has two places. Sometimes I do stay over there, eat the food, shower, watch tv or whatever but I don't wear out my welcome. I get overly busy with work she offers to help which is nice but I am capable of doing it myself (I can understand this a little she isn't lazy that's for sure) She will pay for lunch and dinner/drinks everytime, I try and share the bill but she refuses to let me sometimes. Just things in general makes me sometimes not many friends would have gone out of their ways for some of the shit. Way things are going right now I am confident if I needed something right now no matter how bad it was she would go out of her way to get it done. I've rejected a lot of things she has offered rather it's money or just something in general so I feel a little selfish but at the same time I don't think theres much I could offer her. She pretty well has it made. I'm a self reliant person, Ive been fucked so many times finaically and emotionally so I've become dependent on myself because in the end only true person you can rely on is yourself. I do get myself into jams sometimes but I always get out of them, no need to ask for help I did it to myself. Sometimes things pop up that can't be helped or a stroke of bad luck. I carry my own load and never ask for anyone to share the weight. Somewhere along the line I get confused is she genuinely a good friend or just bribery to keep me around for her business. Am I being selfish? SHould I give in ? My ego in the way?. I've had many friendships go sour over materialistic things so I try to keep it a 50/50 thing but sometimes she puts in well over 100% We did have a little argument around xmas time I was getting a little upset over this stuff and told her I felt bribed, I left and took the day off. She emailed me later in the day and said it hurt her feelings.