FRK abused, trauma

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  1. kutkota

    kutkota New Member

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    quick question



    How many of the FS population has had some sort of trauma in their lives. physically mentally, emotionally, bad upbringing, negligate parents. what has driven you to such extreme sexual acts.
     
  2. Cherryfire

    Cherryfire "If we believe obsurdities, we shall commit atroci

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    Had a terrific childhood, no history of abuse..sexual or otherwise, very happy person. What has "driven" me to such extreme sexual acts? Don't know. I just know its always been a part of me and only grows more and more extreme with every day.
     
  3. videogrl

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    quick question for you, kutkota what exactly is extreme?
     
  4. 12xalt

    12xalt petrolsexual

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    I was poor, does that count?

    Worst thing I can think of is that my dad cheated on my mom for years. However, the effect that had on me was that even though I've always been attracted to other women as well as men, I was always afraid of seeing women as nothing more than sexual objects like he did. There was a secondary level to that as well, I had a very hot female friend that used to hit on me when I was younger, and I wasn't interested in her, so I kept thinking to myself "okay, see, I must not like women if I don't like her like that". But it was just cause I wasn't attracted to her, turns out there's lots of pretty girls that I don't fall for or want.
     
  5. Shibboleth

    Shibboleth teh mad Plato skillz

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    perfect childhood++. I like to think that I like bondage because my mind is very complex ><
     
  6. Eugene Wildwood

    Eugene Wildwood Foxbody for life!

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    Personally, I think this question is complete bullshit. I feel that I am where I am because of choice's Ive made. Not what I was exposed to or seen or herd. I think if you are asking this is a demeaning way, This question makes me feel like some sort of science experiment, I am me, and I would be who I am regardless of any changes of my childhood. It seems like to me, you are not a very liberal sexually and that you feel we are not normal to you, and you wonder what kind of tramatic childhood we have went thru to become where we are? Maybe in our childhoods we were just raised to be open minded and be who we wanted to be, and not another of the sheep.
     
  7. Shibboleth

    Shibboleth teh mad Plato skillz

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    Same here.
     
  9. _syn

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    It is just like the scene in the Matrix... you come to a crossroads where you take the red pill to force yourself into getting off on mundane boring vanilla sex from now until the end of your days (the 'easy' way out), or your take the blue one and open up a Pandora’s box of strange and unusual sexual interests that will never be TOTALLY satisfied.

    As it turns out; I am a blue pill kind of guy.
     
  10. 12xalt

    12xalt petrolsexual

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    btw, my old roommate, most vanilla person I've ever met

    she was molested by an older woman when she was a kid, did having that happen to her stunt her freakiness?
     
  11. _syn

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    I will say that by chance I have ended up dating quite a few girls who've had quite a few fucked up things happen to them and I could connect the proverbial dots in those relationships... its an often, but not always kind of thing.
     
  12. FrigginAnT

    FrigginAnT Humanity is like a train wreck....its fun to watch

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    very hard t0o say if this is a legit question or not. most lame people tend to think this way
     
  13. FairyTat

    FairyTat Anticipation, the taste of things to cum

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    I don't think trauma or abuse is what triggers an interest in sexual acts not considered mainstream. I prefer to think that a higher intellect drives certain people to explore all alternatives. In my sexual explorations most of the people I've run across have been intelligent, creative people who have no problems crossing boundaries to find their own path to satisfaction.

    I myself have never been abused and have suffered no more traumas than the average person. My interest in pain, humiliation, bondage, etc is not rooted in any past event in my life. I can and do enjoy vanilla sex but I also need additional stimulation on a regular basis. You may view any of these as physical acts but for me they are not. They are a pure mental fuck that takes me somewhere the body alone never has.
     
  14. Acesn8s

    Acesn8s The Deadman's Hand

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    I had a great childhood also. I also vividly remember always getting a charge out of seeing a woman tied up. My favorite Dukes of Hazard and Batman episodes were ones in which Daisy or Batgirl would get captured by the bad guys and tied up.

    I also loved playing Cowboys and Indians with the neighborhood kids because I would always be an indian at try and tie my friends sisters to the stake.

    It's just the way I am.
     
  15. _syn

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    Same here, when we would pretend, I always wanted to be the bad guy IF there were girls playing with us-- guys only, it didn't matter but I had to the the villan if there were females. :rofl:
     
  16. Cherryfire

    Cherryfire "If we believe obsurdities, we shall commit atroci

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    Perfect response.
     
  17. QUEEN BLUE

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    I also had a great childhood and still am really close with all of my family. I did however, start watching porn at a very young age thanks to our satellite and me being a night owl. I would wake up in the middle of the night, not be able to go to sleep, and I would go downstairs to watch tv. Well, I ended up finding all these porn stations. I also found some movies my parents owned that I watched. As I got older I realized that my whole family is sex crazed. So I'm not sure if it was the porn, or that it's in the genes.
     
  18. Phantom Empress

    Phantom Empress mmmmmm tasty!!!

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    Greta childhood here. Very loving and involved family that never had a probelm with explaining things to me, be it about sex or anything else. I wasn't abused nor did have any weird traumas. I was exposed to porn and the internet at about 13 and that just open the world of the "deviant" up to me. My Parents always taught me that Being Different isn't bad and that crossing the line of the "normal" into another plane is always good to expand your horizons.

    And Psychologically speaking, the actual occurences of Deviant sexual Behaviour (fetishism and the like) are not very well correlated to past abuse. though there are instances of that happening it's actually more rare than you'd think.
     
  19. pixie

    pixie on one wild ride :naughty:

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    uhm.... :nono:

    I'm more vanilla than most here, & it's not because I'm "forcing myself" to be so, it's just because I enjoy it. Don't put a negitive on vanilla sex, okay? It is just as valid a way to enjoy yourself as it kinky sex is, just because you don't enjoy it as much as the kinky stuff does not mean it's any less fullfilling for someone else.



    As for the thread starters question-no trama in my childhood larger than my parents divorce, but as stated, I'm more vanilla than most here. I don't think kink is derived from childhood trama (although I do believe on occasion it can be) in most of those that enjoy kink. I think its more along the line of preferring blondes, or legs, or any of the other things you might like. Everyone is different, & everyone likes different things. Simple? Sure, but some things are.
     
  20. kutkota

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    I suppose you know what it means to assume things, if you don't it makes an ass out of you and me. I was not asking because i want you to be a scientific experiment, I had a discussion with my manager who happens to hold a a masters in social issues, can't think of the excat degree name. deviant sex acts happened to be something we stumbled onto. thinking to my self, don't know that many people, perhaps i could learn something by asking some of those that seem to be deep into it. sorry if i dented your seemingly frail surface in my pursuit of knowledge. so now if you have something that could help me post it up. if not, quit assuming things, as most of the regular, sheep, i believe you called me do, and sit down.



    For all you know I could be the freakest person here, but then again you would make an ass out of yourself.
    I didn't attack anyone didn't demean anyone, asked a question. plan and simple, if you don't like it don't answer

    for everyone else as those remarks weren't target to any of the other people, don't think that i am making fun or poking fun at you. a question was raised, i turned to you for the answer, pretty simple.

    thanks for the replys
     
  21. Shibboleth

    Shibboleth teh mad Plato skillz

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    It's bad form to loose your composure, even over the internet.
     
  22. Eugene Wildwood

    Eugene Wildwood Foxbody for life!

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    Maybe, just MAYBE, I worded my response wrong. But then again, Since im assuming everything, I'll go ahead and assume you know what I mean. If it's knowledge your looking for, Im sure there are plenty of other ways to go about it. This is F/s, While most of us choose to make our sex lives public, It seems to me, inconsiderate that you would come in and expect to have people admit their childhood problems to you just for "knowledge". What is learning to you, is putting someone else under the microscope. No weather or not your saying you are or arent, I dont see how you can avoid it. If someone told you about an event, and what kind of quote "extream sexual acts" they were into, you would then think on that, wonder to yourself how those events would make a person do these sexual acts. You say Im assuming. I say its natural to want to learn, and when one of these kind people do inform you, I dont really see you saying "hm, so thats it.", No, I think you would probably begin to question more and more. What ever happend to doing something b/c it made you happy? Nope, can't do that, I had to be beatin as a child or abused b/c I like bondage. Oh, and I doubt your really all that freaky, b/c if you were, youd understand.
     
  23. TwistedMind

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    Sexually abused ? Never. My dad used to beat the shit out of me on a pretty regular basis. Over stupid stuff. He tried to kill me once or twice and Ive spent countless hours thinking about suicide since i was about 12. I dunno just never could bring myself to do the deed. I have more respect for my life than that and everything ive delt with, put up with and endured most of my life would be wasted doing something so cowardly.


    Do I think my chidhood affected my sexual apitite at all? Not a chance. Ive tried the main stream thing and it was alright but was missing alot so I made myself the way I am today.
     
  24. TheMustafa

    TheMustafa hook 'em

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    repressed issues much?

    your personality is based on like 80% experiences and 20% genetics. If you were to have experienced a different childhood, you would be a completely different person. this is based on scientific fact.

    If someone were to come on FS and ask "do you like getting fucked in the ass and pussy concurrently," sounds like you'd be fine with it, but when they ask "did you experience trauma growing up" you freak out. sounds pretty hypocritical to me.

    perhaps this person was experiencing some guilt over extreme sexual feelings they have now, and thought that traumatic events from their childhood could be part of the cause, and simply wanted guidance or to share/hear about other experiences such as hers.

    this is FS, and everything here is "freaky" and probably offensive to some. the point of this forum is not to flame for asking questions, but to share experiences. if something makes you uncomfortable, just dont reply. its not that complicated.
     
  25. Shibboleth

    Shibboleth teh mad Plato skillz

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    reread the whole thread, it's none of those things. And this is, to my knowledge, a freaky sex forum, not a freaky sociology question forum. I'm pretty sure he just wanted to find some corrolation (a corrolation that in my mind seems too banal and trite to be correct), while at the same time perhaps inadvertantly alianating newb, amung others. I believe newbs responce was justified considering the alianation he probably felt, and I know I felt.

    As for hypocracy, it might have been if the thread starter had gotten off sexually in knowing the answer to his question.

    The human mind is much more complex then the seemingly obvious connection between abuse and kinky sexual desires makes it out to be. I know I've always wanted to experience a loss of control to somebody I completly trust, or perhaps take control from somebody who trusts me, it's arousing. I can't pin this urge on anything (and I consider myself very good at tracing personality traits to experiences. for example I know now that my lack of trust around people in general, and uncomfortableness around strangers can be traced back to a certain type of low self esteem, which I know is because of things that happened to me in middle school and very probably issues with my parents.) that I would have experienced when I was younger. I'm guessing it probably happened before any time I have a memory of, unless it's genetic (doubtfull, I do agree that it was most probably experience related).
     

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