a realization

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  1. themolsen

    themolsen New Member

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    I'm 25 years old, single, smart, relatively attractive, successful, in perfect health, moving into a cool place, have a job I love, AWESOME brosephs with whom I can chill every weekend and have a blast...

    So WHY the fuck have I been so interested in a serious relationship, especially one that would lead to marriage? I know it's something I want, but why now?

    Validation. We all want it. But I've realized that instead of getting all of my validation from one source (an SO), that it's in abundant supply from friends, family, MYSELF, and random people all over the place.

    But you know what? All a serious relationship does for me right now is add drama, anxiety and worry to my life. THIS is the time when I can travel, go on cruises, meet new people, move around without drama, and do WHATEVERTHEFUCK I want.

    I'm all for dating and having a relationship with someone because it enriches my life and certainly does add some fun and needed sexual release... but I'm done thinking long-term and moving forward with some sort of endgame in mind like marriage. I'm young, god damn it, and I have plenty of time to settle down and marry.

    For now on the endgame is that there is no endgame. I've known this for several months but just now got around to applying it. It's taken a certain amount of introspection to get here, I guess.

    I've had this attitude that everything I do (work, savings, success, buying a car, etc.) is to set up a life for a wife and family. But I have to enjoy that stuff FIRST. I have to set it up for ME.

    So, thanks VAG for your input, genius, short-sightedness, wisdom, ignorance, assholishness and generosity. I hope others have been and can be affected in the positive way I have been :wavey:
     
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    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    You will now fall head over heels in love.

    j/k, good stuff :)
     
  3. Falconer

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    Or just have an LTR with a high quality, low-drama woman.
     
  4. peoplescar

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    :h5: i'm feeling the same way
     
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    You'll enjoy life so much more after realizing that
     
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    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    I SAY KILL 'EM!

    Wait, what are we talking about?
     
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    God damn it. I had my torch out and everything.
     
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    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    I'm still down if you are.
     
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    I'm down too! I do what I want
     
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    Ah shit, we're burning people. Alright I'm in to watch, I don't want to get any on me I'm in work clothes.
     
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    That's okay. I brought an extra sparkler. You can stand off to the side and use that.
     
  13. PcH

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    Aren't you fooling around with a girl that you know has herpes? :uh:
     
  14. themolsen

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    I guess you didn't read much of that thread. We're engaging in 100% non-risky behaviors. I told her I will NOT do ANYTHING that will put me at risk. I like her and she adds a lot of enjoyment and activities to my life. If I can maintain that safely, then I will.

    -edit- OK, here it is: I want some awesome handjobs from her :rofl:
     
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    please drop the herpes girl then lets continue this thread
     
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    poor girl
     
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    lol it's not like she has herpes on her hands, her face, her mouth....
     
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    :werd:
     
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    im just looking out for our boy molsen :cool:

    i mean really, it fucking SUCKS to be her, but watch, one night molsen is going to get so shit faced and so sexually frustrated from handjobs only that hes going to wage war and fuck every single one of her orifices raw dog and wake up in the morning with this huge fucking oh shit look on his face, cry until he is no longer capable of crying and then a big ass image of sexy abomb wagging his finger with a somber I told you so expression on his face is going to be permanently plastered into his retinas.


    that, and herpes.
     
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    lol but I love handjobs. If she can't offer good handjobs, then I'm bolting.

    :rofl: herpes may not be a deal-breaker, but bad handjobs are:rofl::rofl:
     
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    So you are sacrificing your independence for the possibility of handjobs.

    LOL. You're doing it wrong friend.

    In the other thread you referenced the fact you can only date 1 girl at once. Why? That's just crazy talk, girls play the field, and guys can too. Until you have the conversation that confirms you are in a committed relationship... you aren't!

    So do as you say and go enjoy your life. Find someone other than herpes girls to date on the side. Maybe then you won't be so keen on keeping her around.

    It's better for you to say "SUX2BU" rather than "SUX2BME"
     
  22. JohnJohnJohnson

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    i would understand this if you were dating other women in addition to your HJ buddy.
     
  23. PcH

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    You need moar brains :uh:
     
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    :h5: good stuff

    you really don't need to be in a serious relationship for a long time and nobody under 30 should be allowed to get married :mamoru:
     
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