For quite some time now I have been immersed in the culture of Pickup. I use the word culture with no hesitation, and perhaps the word is not strong enough. Pickup is a way of life. It forms a basis for not only every action a person takes, but every thought a person has running through his head. It makes him strive for change, to be the person he wants to, physically, socially, mentally. And yet, lately, I feel something is missing from it. It is not that the ideals of pickup are wrong. As I have stated, at its most fundamental points Pickup is really not far off from self help; having a positive look on life. But like all defined set of beliefs and ideals, the lesson is always taken too far, we react too strongly, with too much fervor, and become somewhat less human. Interestingly, the internet has played a huge role in both the advancement and what I view as the ultimate bastardization of Pickup. The best way to show this is with examples. One pickup source on the net suggested walking up to a girl with your hands in the shape of a circle and saying "fist my asshole." Now, when I told my friends they all laughed, but I laughed back. Like most guys they just didn't understand, or they didn't want to. Their view of the world was simplistic and false, and not only were they creating sad lives for themselves they were also ego filled self loathing bastards. I tried it out. One girl in particular I remember. She put her fist through my asshole shaped hands and punched me right in the face. Most other girls responded with the same sentiment. Yes, this is only one example from one source, but you'll find equally absurd things all over the place. But this is not the actual problem, this is only the symptom. The problem runs much deeper. I will put it plainly and harshly: The pickup community is unhealthily obsessed to the point of absurdism. We have delved so far into our world of Pickup that it is no longer applicable to the real world. We have flung ourselves to our knees in the name of the golden calf of Pickup without even noticing. Don't get me wrong. Be more confident, talk to girls more often, talk to people more often, do things, be active, stop being such a fucking loser. But that is all it takes, the rest will come. The details matter little if at all. For gods sake, don't go asking offtopic for advice on the dating game. Jesus fucking christ. I don't know how to stress how fucking stupid that is. Go outside and live a little you fucking idiots. GET YOU SOME.