A little look inwards ...

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  1. dan7532

    dan7532 New Member

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    Here's the deal. I meet plenty of girls. All of them want long-term committed relationships with me. I want fuckbuddies. What do I need to change?
     
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    so you just want to get your dick wet? be more of an asshole :dunno:
     
  3. Timer

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    Establish you want friends with benefits, that's it.
    Better yet, do relationshipish stuff, but never officially commit. They'll put out for you.
     
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    Stop acting like a boyfriend is the only way to get sex with no relationship.
     
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    How?
    How?
     
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    How do you interact with all these girls now?
     
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    i need more information. i am a woman, and i've had plenty of fwb relationships. :dunno:

    in my cases, i've always placed the guy in a fwb status if sexual contact started fairly shortly after meeting and/or hanging out.

    but, like i said, i need more information... about you and said girls, ages, and where you meet them, etc. ;)
     
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    i disagree, to an extent. i guess i wouldn't be overly nice, but don't be too much of an ass or the girl will find a new fwb in a heartbeat and send your ass to the curb ;)
     
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    Most of these girls are 18 and I know that is an immature age where girls don't really know what they want, but I'm just trying to see if you all have any suggestions that can help regardless of age. I am 21.

    I don't spend any money on these girls. I don't contact them frequently. I don't hold their hand in public (even though they always try). I have had established "fuckbuddies" before, but they always end up wanting more, and leave me when I won't give it to them.
     
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    Tell them they are just for your sexual use, and not a relationship.
     
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    it sounds as though your blending the lines between the "fuck" and the "buddy." girls will naturally form a bond with guys that they hang out with, especially if they're hanging out with a guy as well as sleeping with him.

    personally, i kept them separate. i rarely hung out with my fwb's. i'm not saying that it's not wrong to do your :naughty: thing and pass out together, but when you wake up you shouldn't be making each other breakfast in bed. ;)
     
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    exactly... don't be an ass about it, but make sure you tell them that you're not interested in any sort of relationship.

    granted, some girls think that they can change a guy :rolleyes:. if she gets her feelings hurt, it's her own damn fault. :o harsh, but it's the truth.
     
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    That's what's the case with me. I always tell them I don't want any sort of relationship and they always think they can change me. Some of them even go into it saying "yeah, I don't want a relationship either, let's do this! we're fuckbuddies!", then after a few months ... "why won't you go to prom with me? why won't you go on vacation with my parents and me? when are you gonna call me your girlfriend?"

    Is there anything I should be doing besides simply meeting more girls in hopes of finding ones who aren't so silly?
     
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    :rofl: sounds like you're meeting the wrong ones, i'm afraid.

    in that case, it's best to just find new girls. :( the moment a girl becomes too "involved" with you, it's best to move on. spare yourself the agony, seriously... no matter how good the sex may be :mamoru:
     
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    quit taking them on dates
     
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    You don't have to do anything.

    Make it clear you don't want a relationship right now and that you aren't looking for anything serious. Then let them decide if they can handle that.

    As long as you aren't leading them on, you don't have to do anything.
     
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    tell them that and don't treat them like a girlfriend

    i.e. it's not exactly her fault if she's getting the wrong idea if you engage in "dating" type behavior
     
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    EXACTLY I have a guy friend who had this problem all the time...If you're really just "friends :cool:" you don't need to take them out to dinner etc.
     
  19. LBFilmGuy

    LBFilmGuy LOL why u mad tho?

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    You're doing fine...I've had that happen to me as well and if they want to get too serious and be with me I just cut them off and move on to the next.
     

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