A Let-down

Discussion in 'Vaginarium' started by makaveli, Mar 16, 2005.

  1. makaveli

    makaveli Guest

    well, last night went round to my new girlfriends house (shes 21 and im 19), we was having some foreplay then we started to move to sex (im a virgin and shes not) just as i was about to insert, my member let me down. :S
    im still getting hard-ons from porn etc and she really turns me on, but when it came to sex i was failed :( , she said it was ok and nothing to worry about, but that doesnt make me feel better

    is this just some anxiety shit??? cause i was real nervous cause im a virgin and shes had some experience.
     
  2. Insured by HK

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    Yep, anxiety. Try not to be so nervous and enjoy yourself next time.....
     
  3. makaveli

    makaveli Guest

    i was enjoying myself, but i suppose sub-conciously it would all be on my mind.
     
  4. Insured by HK

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    Don't worry too much about it. In my experience sex doesn't always go really well the first time....this was true of my current g/f and I. I was a bit nervous and so was she and it was flawed. But now we're comfortable and the sex is REALLY great.
     
  5. Ryuhei

    Ryuhei Oh gawd

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    All mental. Keep at it and don't sweat it. Sounds like she was cool about it too which is awesome. I know it's not easy but try not to dwell on it. That could make it worse. HAPPY HUMPING!

    P.S.
    Give her an extra thrust for me when you do bone. :kdubb:
     
  6. Yes you were just nervous, did she know you're a virgin? If not, tell her and talk it through... but don't sweat it or obsess over it or it'll happen again.

    Laugh it off, and just relax man.

    Maybe you just need more time with her to get more comfortable, there is no rush...
     
  7. makaveli

    makaveli Guest

    thanks for all the advice.

    yeah i told her i was a virgin, and we talked about it.

    cant seem to get it off my mind now :wtc:

    so hopefully i'll have gotten over it by the time i see her next and just relax.
     

  8. Get it out of your mind... seriously.

    Just laugh and say 'damn she was soo fine, I was just not in the zone'

    The key to performing is to NOT think about performing. Instead of thinking about your wang and how hard / soft / whatever it is, just concentrate on the moment. The feel of her breasts in your hands, the look of lust in her eyes, the smell of her skin, the feel of her wetness on your fingertips.

    Then you get hard because you are IN THE MOMENT, not analyzing it and questioning yourself.

    The moment is what you should be thinking about, not your junk... when you are watching porn are you sitting there thinking about yourself or are you lost in the moment thinking about what it would be like to pound one of those sluts?

    Chill man, this is a non-issue, don't make it one. :bigok:
     
  9. BoypussY

    BoypussY game over.

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    very good post. focusing on the girl really helps with performance.
     
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    russd10089 New Member

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    Don't worry about it. I know from experience, most women don't care as much as you'd think. Usually happens to me the first time i'm with a girl i care about. I just make up for it later. None have had a problem with it yet.
     
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    the best thing you can do in that situation, is give her the best oral sex she's ever had in her life. because....

    a. you'll prolly get hard again during that and..

    b. if you dont get hard from that, you at least gave her a mind blowing orgasm and she has no room to complain.


    one time i was get a terrific (probably the best i've ever had) blow job from this hot blond i was dating (she's actualy about to start being a stripper/exotic dancer whatever) and suddenly i was limp as hell. man that was an ego killer.

    i stressed this all throughout that night, and probably the next day. but after that i figured "fuck it, it happens. get over it and do it right next time, blow the biggest load down her throat" and you know what? i havn't had an issue since.


    don't despair, dont worry about it, things'll be alright. just think about fucking her brains out the next time you're with her.
     

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