Cliffs: A friend of mine and her boyfriend has lost the passion in their relationship. Anyone have advice for them? A good friend of mine is having trouble with her boyfriend of 3 & ½ years, whom she moved in with 2 months ago. They moved in together because they wanted to see more of each other, and the opposite has happened. She’s frightened that all the passion in the relationship has gone and is having a crisis about what is going on. She has a very high level of energy, she’s always on the go and always wants to go out and do whatever. He goes along most of the time, but he’s turned into a work-a-holic. She says that he’s driven, and to a fault. One of the biggest problems is that she doesn’t get as much sex as she likes, nor is the quality real great as of late because of him working all the time. She confided in me that she can’t remember the last time that she got her rocks off. The problem is that he feels pressured into doing stuff when he isn’t in the mood, and then that turns her off, and then it just doesn’t happen. The latest example is that after I and some other friends of theirs left their apartment, they decided to have sex, and this is how it went: He started out with: “You wanna…?” She replied: “Eh.” And he ends up cutting her with his fingernail while fingering her. Even I felt some pain when she told me that. Ow. She wasn’t even really into it and then that happened. That doesn’t bode well. Another example is when him, her, a lady friend of mine, and myself went out bowling. Before we went out, he was complaining that he was going to lose 2 hours of sleep. Her problem is that she’s thinking about settling for what she has and living without the passion and being content with her hobbies and friends. Although she told me that she recently found out what passion was again, she didn’t tell me where, but that she isn’t so sure that she can live without it. I’m out of ideas for her. She was given the advice of cutting him off from sex to get his drive up, but she can’t live without it for that long since she needs it more than he does. I told her she might want to find another source of dick, but she didn’t seem that enthusiastic about cheating on her boyfriend. Anyone have advice for her?