LGBT a few questions

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  1. volvoc70

    volvoc70 New Member

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    so i mean this in no way to be offensive but im just a really curious straight guy.ive always wanted to ask a gay/lesbian these questions. hopefully you can answer them.

    what made you realize you were gay?

    do you feel you were born gay or became gay?

    what if anything made you gay?(being dumped by a girl, never getting a girl etc)

    do you just like kissing etc rather than sex etc?
     
  2. compu_85

    compu_85 Woooo! 60HP!

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    I seem to recall there was another thread on this subject, but I don't know if I posted in it.

    I had 'known' I've been gay for quite some time, but hadn't accepted it until this past winter. It was at that point that I realized I too could deeply care for someone and they could return the feeling, and that it really was OK for me to have that. I was definitely born gay, no question about it. In high school I had a girlfriend, but I had to dump her because it wasn't fair to her... I simply couldn't return any of the emotion to her because I didn't have them towards her. It hurt her pritty bad at first, but as time moved on we became friends again.

    I like kissing, but that doesn't preclude me from sex ;)

    -Jason
     
  3. busydoingnothing

    busydoingnothing A broken man too tough to cry

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    I'm very fascinated by the answer to #4. In my researching of human sexuality, that is one thing I've come across that has confused me: gay men watching straight porn. It's not something you hear about too often, and I never got a chance to talk to anyone about that to hear their perspective.

    Have you ever considered, in the whole scheme of things, that you're bisexual, although you lean mostly to the gay side of things, and therefore it's just easier to call yourself gay? I usually say (depending on the people around me) that I am mostly straight. I say this because I do have bi tendencies...I watch gay porn on occasion and get off to it, I look at other men and think they're hot, but I don't think I'd ever actually go through with anything (maybe someday).

    Is that the case for you, although reversed? Do you mostly watch gay porn, but occasionally watch straight porn? What's the ratio typically? And what do you focus on in the straight porn? What turns you on about it?

    I'd like to hear your thoughts on this...if you'd prefer to keep it private, you could always PM me.
     
  4. CoCo

    CoCo ...is a Queer Don!! OT Supporter

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    I've actually always said that I was Bi, with gay tendencies. My first (second, and third) time was with a guy, but then I dated girls for a while. I had very real relationships with females, falling in love with more than one. I just happen to MOSTLY be attracted to men these days. But people don't like to hear that. To make things easier, I simply say 'queer'...it's makes a nice umbrella.

    On to your questions:
    1 - When my mother was still pregnant with me, she and my father were still sexually active...knwoing that intercourse could help her go into labor. Well, I didn't want to come out. I joke that I was staying in because I enjoyed the show. ;) I was attracted to my childhood best friend, and ultimately seduced him. I enjoyed several years of sexual bliss, before relocation ended the relationship. This was 3rd grade through 6th grade.

    2 - I think I was born open to love...from everyone.

    3 - N/A (Between my personality, my appearance, and sexual liberation I've always had ample suiters...male and female.)

    4 - I enjoy causing pleasure.
     
  5. XPX

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    Well....I'm still new to all this and to be honest I still have doubts about it all :o...some of my closest friends (including a gay one) think I might not be gay.

    what made you realize you were gay?
    When I was in high school and I'd look more the guys than the girls

    do you feel you were born gay or became gay?
    I was born this way, sadly.

    what if anything made you gay?(being dumped by a girl, never getting a girl etc)
    I could easily have a gf, I've been single all my life and I had a couple crushes with girls and all that crap but I never acted on it.

    do you just like kissing etc rather than sex etc?
    I still carry my v-card but I think I like it all :rofl:

    I'm still confused as fuck, I have had romantic feelings for girls and from time to time I'd meet a girl that completely drives me nuts and make me try that too but then I'd meet a guy that would wipe off the girl from the scene sooo... :hsughno: my closest friends say that I have to get it on with a girl and see if I like it and then try it with a guy and compare, they all hope I like the girl better and that is weird. I've asked them about it and they just say I'm not really gay but that my sexual range is just wide. Who knows? :rofl
     
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    Pretty much the same except number one, even though I hung out in the womb for 56hrs myself...

    I'm very sexually fluid as long as respect is paid back to me...
     
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    Honestly, I don't know if I could ever "Settle Down" with another man, but I'm not closed to the option, but I do want another child, and that usually involves the opposite sex unfortunatly cause a lot of them are completely useless whores.
     
  8. CoCo

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    ..no wonder we get along so well. :mamoru:
     
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    we more than get along.... :naughty:
     
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    1: I had suspected for awhile. Seemed like I had less of an intrest in women/sex then other guy my age (when I was in jr. high, HS). I just didnt feel anything when I thought of them with the exception that I could be friendly with the masculine ones and we were cool?

    2: Born.

    3: I was born?

    4:
     
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    stolid_agnostic One who is both stolid and agnostic. Get a diction

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    1) always knew I was gay, from probably the age of 10 on when I started realizing that bewbs did nothing for me and I thought people around me were crazy around me for talking about it all the time and wanting to see it when I knew that dicks were much better

    2) no question that I was born this way. I mean, people do some crazy things, but who would want to go through that in this society? i fought against it for many many years, which just made me miserable and a bitch. eventually I stopped resisting and just accepted myself, and life was much better.

    3) nothing made me so, it's just the way I am, like eye and hair color, skin color, and hereditary personality traits that one observes within families

    4) i honestly prefer a good cuddle of sex anytime. for me, it's all about the intimacy rather than the sex itself. now, this is not to say that I don't enjoy it, because I love it and I am much better at it now than when I was younger (yes, experience counts). but I would rather save it for more special nights rather than deal with mess, cleanup on a daily basis
     
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    stolid_agnostic One who is both stolid and agnostic. Get a diction

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    i will always claim that people fall on a spectrum and that there are probably practically no people who are entirely straight or entirely gay (if any at all)

    I have yet to meet a woman that compelled me to pursue her, and that's how I know that I'm more on one side of the spectrum than the other. i still believe that I could find this woman and could have a relationship with her (although I would be an entire novice who would have to learn everything from the beginning).

    usually when I watch straight porn, I am paying attention to some hot guy or another, or I think about the penetration. remember, as I always say, guys like to put their thangs inside thangs.

    i have known many gay people who had girlfriends over the years, sex0red like crazy, and said that they enjoyed it. to them, the sex was good but the relationship was the thing that was missing since they felt that they could bond with a man better.
     
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    busydoingnothing A broken man too tough to cry

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    I guess that's the thing I'm stuck on: What makes a relationship different from a friendship? I've never really had a lot of close guy friends, so now when I'm hanging around guys and I'm enjoying their company and feeling good about it, I don't know if these are friendly feelings or crush feelings :dunno:.
     
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    stolid_agnostic One who is both stolid and agnostic. Get a diction

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    the thing is that perhaps you should just fuck a guy once or let one fuck you


    maybe that will allow you to see?
     
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    I love my best friend, I care for him and I enjoy spending time around him. I dont want to fuck him or see him missing any of his clothing. If I dont talk to him for a period of time, its ok, we pick up where we left off. When he is with his wife, I am happy for him that he has found someone.

    Where you would start to wonder if it was a crush is when you think of sexual encounters with him, when you get lonely/sad because he hasnt been around, or jealous when he spends time with his wife/gf.

    There is a very distinct line between a gay man having a straight male friend (or gay for that matter) with him just being a friend and having a boyfriend/lover/partner/etc.

    EDIT: That doesnt mean that I dont have straight friends that I wouldnt mind having a roll in the hay with.
     
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    busydoingnothing A broken man too tough to cry

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    Yeah, it's all so very confusing. I've always kinda been jealous and a bit possessive of my male friends. I think it could be mainly due to my craving for attention. I never kept a lot of groups of friends...I would typically have one or two main friends that I would hang out with. I do try to picture myself in sexual situations with some of my friends to see how I react/feel about it, but it's pretty much always, "God, WTF." But I don't know if that's like, real, actual, "Do not want," or if it's that I'm not allowing myself to want it or something...Either way, I still feel awkward and uncomfortable around my male friends because of this.

    It's probably important to note that I'm obsessive-compulsive, and my main obsession is my sexuality, so...
     
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    compu_85 Woooo! 60HP!

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    I have to agree with IP on this, talking with others helped me a lot.

    -J
     
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    philvia SUCKIN ON MY TITTIES LIKE YOU WANTIN ME CALLIN ME

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    what made you realize you were gay?
    from junior high and up i never had any interest in girls. before that in elementary school i had "girlfriends" but they weren't real; you know how little kids are.

    do you feel you were born gay or became gay?
    i used to think alot of it was how you were raised but then i relized i wasnt raised to be gay at all -_- so yes i think you're born gay. the way you were raised only affects your attitude about it. imagine all the closet gays out there, married with kids, that were too afraid to come out because they were told all their childhood it was wrong.

    what if anything made you gay?(being dumped by a girl, never getting a girl etc)
    read above^ -O-

    do you just like kissing etc rather than sex etc?
    cuddling and being close is so much better than sex to me
     
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    1. what made you realize you were gay?
    -when i had feelings for a male for the second time. not too long ago

    2. do you feel you were born gay or became gay?
    -nope. i became gay. actually im bisexual. im a special case. i have sexual desires only for women but i can only fall in love with men.

    3.what if anything made you gay?(being dumped by a girl, never getting a girl etc)
    - I actually get alot of girls. but i was dumped by a girl in highschool and it really hurt, but that happens to straight guys too. i really dont know the answer to this question.

    4.do you just like kissing etc rather than sex etc?
    -yes
     
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    You know you want to cuddle with me while bitching about our day... Just admit it already :greddy::mamoru:
     
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    So I guess I need to go back to JC Penney's and return that wedding dress I bought off the clearance rack huh? :wtc:
     
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    what made you realize you were gay?
    The Jc Penny catalog? My older cousin's male friends who I thought were hot? The guy who repeatedly raped / molested me for awhile?

    do you feel you were born gay or became gay?
    I guess I was born this way?

    what if anything made you gay?(being dumped by a girl, never getting a girl etc)
    I think it was when due to that special I caught on the satellite as a small child about men having sex with men, and girls with penises...

    do you just like kissing etc rather than sex etc?
    Now I prefer cuddling, kissing, setting out in the back end of my truck late at night or laying in a field on a blanket, etc. Not to say I don't enjoy sex but it's just not that important to me anymore. Good god I'm 25 and I act like I'm 60 :wtc:


    I've had several girlfriends, and even sex with women but I guess I prefer guys. Vagina's scare me (I swear they have teeth!) and cocks make my mouth water :dunno: I'm the nice boy next door who as of late seems to be getting fucked over hardcore, to the point that it has changed me as a person.
     
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    Now hon, you didn't read my message now did you....I said I wasn't closed to the option, I'd just have to find the right man...and damn it, that wedding dress better be in my size and not yours... :rofl:
     
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    You really need a hug.... :hug:
     

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