Im kind of reluctant to post in here because of the advice I might get, but I'm not sure what to do. Ive been seeing this girl for a few months now, and everything has been going great up until about a month an a half ago, when we stopped having sex, but it wasnt just that, we've pretty much stopped all physical intimacy save hand holding and kissing, on account that she isnt in the mood. I dont know how long it takes for girls to get in the mood again, I can only assume Ive dated nymphos in the past. As the weeks went on I tried to convince myself that the timing just wasnt right a few times, she had been working late or whatever, but one night I was sure something would happen, she was out of work early, didnt have to be in the next day, we went out to eat, saw a movie, had a few drinks, got back home and as soon as I try to do anything she stops me and says ' Im sorry, Im not trying to withhold sex from you' so that was pretty much a buzzkill there. I got kinda upset, gathered my thoughts and tried to talk to her about it about a month ago, that I was worried that she wasnt attracted to me anymore. She didnt really take it seriously and chalked it up to having sex too soon in the relationship (she was my first) and hinted that their might be something physically wrong with her. I thought, ok fine, Ill wait this out a bit longer, as long as things are going fine during the daytime, we still get along and shes happy, then I'll have to deal for now.. but I told her I felt bad trying to initiate things with her and her always rejecting me, so when the time was right, she needed to come to me. Well just about another month has passed now, and still nothing. Im starting to get upset and irritated more easily and just feeling all around unimportant. I started looking up stuff on the internet about decreased libido and most of the signs point to stress or lack of sleep, that kind of thing, which she is definitely a cantidate for, she hates her roommates, she goes to school, and works her ass off ridiculous hours at her job where she gets little respect from coworkers and customers, and has some extra curricular responsibilites she cant/wont give up. So I dont know what to do, I tried telling her shes burning herself out, but I dont know how do it without coming across as a selfish like 'we dont have sex enough, stop doing these things you enjoy/have to do' I dunno what to do, i think its too soon for ultimatiums, I really like her when shes got time for me, things are just aggrivating now. Sorry this is so long.