SRS 8 hour phone conversation

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  1. bigdreidel

    bigdreidel New Member

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    with a girl i've known for no longer than a week. we came to the conclusion were perfect for each other but she has a boyfriend of two years and shes already transferring to his college. she isn't willing to give it all up. what do i do?
     
  2. Move on, you are not perfect for each other. If she was she wouldn't be chasing another guy. Probably things are rocky with the other guy and she finds solace in your talking to her, nothing complex here. Now once again move on.

    8 hour phone conversation, that there is frustrating, I would never, ever again be caught dead on the phone longer than 20 mins.
     
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    When she IS willing to give it all up, only THEN will she be perfect for you.
    You got used. At least it was only 8 hours out of your life.
     
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    Wow, imagine what that 8 hours would have cost her if she went to a real therapist??

    Lucky for her she found some sap who gave her 8 hours for free.

    You got used, royally. Nothing is going to happen with her, you were just a temporary crutch...she just wanted to make you feel good so she wouldn't feel guilty.

    Read the bolded part. How in the heck did you think anything was going to happen with this girl?
     
  5. 7960

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    Think "damnit!" and move on.

    Do not get hung up on her.
    Do not think "maybe she'll transfer back."
    Do not go see her and try to get her to stay.

    Move on. Now you've got a good "one that got away" story.
     
  6. Falconer

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    She has a boyfriend.

    She was flirting/exploring stuff with you while she had a boyfriend.

    You have just discovered that her personality is one that will flirt and explore the possibility of being interested in another guy while she is already in a relationship.

    So, if she left her bf for you, and you guys got together, what makes you think she would be any different with you? Are you so awesome and special that she would suddenly lose interest in all other guys? Or is she a potential whore who doesn't respect the boundaries of her own relationship?

    This girl is showing you EXACTLY how she is, and if you have any desires for a LTR or a monogomous relationship, she is a bad candidate.

    If my gf had an 8 hour conversation with another guy I'd be like WTF?
     
  7. What if he was gay? :eek4:

    Edit: I had to ask that question.
     
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    this will not end well. Walk away
     
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    :werd:

    the words "emotional tampon" come to mind :rofl:
     
  10. Falconer

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    lol then it's fine (as long as she wasn't telling him about my cock or something :rofl: )
     
  11. That is always the topic of conversation you know that. :rofl:
     
  12. BlazinBlazer Guy

    BlazinBlazer Guy Witness to The De-Evolution of Mankind.

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    I was thinking more along the lines of a maxi-pad with wings, but I suppose tampon works :mamoru:
     
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    funny part is whether he's a tampon or maxi-pad, no matter what happens that's the closest he's ever going to get to that area on her :rofl:
     
  14. lycorisdew

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    8 hr. fone conversations with people r rare but it doesnt mean ur perfect for each other. im all for being passionate n all romeo n juliet-fall in love in less than a week kinda thing but im not convinced u two r "perfect" for each other.
     
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    My thoughts exactly.
     
  16. Roddy

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    Hehe, i remember doin that with my ex

    Exact same situation.. she was with a bf.. we started talking

    started talking at 7pm... finished at 3am the following morning.

    We were together for 3 years and broke up

    Best thing is, is that we're really good friends now :)
     
  17. lennykim

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    how do you have a 8 hour phone conversation? t mobile cuts off my phone after 3 hours and 53 minutes (i know because i fell asleep on the phone a million times) that's like getting cut off and calling back to get cut off again!
     
  18. eljefedetonto

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    my head just exploded at the thought of being on the phone for 8 hours

    srsly, call the hospital :ugh:
     
  19. Yail Bloor

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    Friends talk, lovers make love.
     
  20. BlazinBlazer Guy

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    And lovers can't be friends?
     
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    Friends talk but don't make love

    Lovers talk and make love

    Are you happy now?
     
  23. Jackie Treehorn

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    Jesus man, 8 hours? I remember when I talked to chicks on the phone for long periods of time. TERRIBLE IDEA :rofl:

    A girl would be lucky to get 20 minutes out of me now, regardless of what my motives are with her.

    Like others have said, this girl used you. Never talk to her again, find someone available and that has genuine interest in you.
     
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    congrats on finding a new home.
     
  25. Spiritus

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    Friends talk, friends fuck, lovers make love.

    Not everyone knows how to love.
     

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