SRS 1 Year Anniversary this week and I don't know what I am doing with the relationship.

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  1. Swak

    Swak Artificially known as ObsoleteAsian

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    So I have been dating this girl for about a year, things were great for I guess the first half of it. Only a few months after dating her I let her move in or stay with me since she was living at home. I really can't put a timeframe on when it happened but it seems that we have grown distant. We both still love each other. I still care for her. But I have no attraction physically for her, not saying she is ugly. But its like I treat her like a friend now. She moved out a few weeks a go back home to try and help this. But now I am at the point of not caring, and to make it even better our 1 year is this week and I want to pull the plug but I can't really come out with that this week. I am not asking for comfort or anything like that but perhaps to ask me questions on information I am not providing so I can see if I can breakdown this and understand what is going on.
     
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    Sounds to me like your feeling is that it's done, but you're reluctant to pull the plug due to other factors.
    Key question: how old are the two of you.
     
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    Swak Artificially known as ObsoleteAsian

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    23 myself, she just recently turned 21.

    I have thoughts that I don't want to hurt her over this, but I just don't think I can do it anymore. She doesn't give me the right kind of attention anymore so I think that is what helped me to distance myself recently.

    Plus we are at very different parts of my life. She grew up a lot different than I did. I am one of those people who have to strive for the best and finished college a year a go, already working full time planning on my buying my own place end of year. I have been living out of my parents house since 18. I am very independent in the way I do things. She still lives at home just barely started college. Doesn't mind sitting all day playing games. Which I don't mind but even I think she plays to much.
     
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    FuckCF4Life New Member

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    Hey i just ended almost a two year rela.. and im soo happy and i hope she doesnt read this because... I love her but im not sure if i am inlove with her.. shes more a great freind.. WAIT A TICK? IM SINGLE AGAIN, OH BEHAVE!
     
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    Sounds like she's dragging you down just end it. I cant stand girls with no drive or ambition in life, girls like that find a guy to marry so they can stay home all day and do nothing but get fat
     

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